It’s really popular today to talk about “grinding it out”. About putting in the hard work in order to achieve the goals you’ve set… But here’s the thing: this sort of an approach can have an opposite effect. Especially if you’re not going to be a professional in the thing you’re working on.
For instance: are you in BJJ because you want to be a professional? Or because you’re a hobbyist? If you don’t have an ambition to turn pro, then your best bet is to learn to enjoy doing Jiu-Jitsu.

Brandon Mccaghren, one of the most highly respected BJJ coaches in the world, shares why you need to have this sort of a mindset:

Probably higher than 90% of the people don’t compete, right? And so, to those people I would say: don’t be too serious about it.
Like the question: “What should I do next?” Or: “How do I get better?” The way you get better is by spending hours on your craft. And the best way to do that is to practice the thing you like doing, the thing that you enjoy.

Don’t worry too much about what’s the “right thing to be practicing” and “maximum growth” or whatever.
The maximum growth will come from you just being there as much as you can and spending as many quality hours on the mat as you can. And the best way to do that is just to enjoy what you’re doing. Then it doesn’t feel like hard work. You put in extra work, because you want to do it.

You’ve got to love the journey, not just the destination:

Like, if you don’t enjoy the process of it… You can’t be in it for the belt. You have to be in it because you love to be in it. And that will yield the belt, right? That will yield the results that you want, that are uncommon.

But if you’re just coming in and grinding through it… Pretty much all those people (who do it like that) quit eventually. The only people that stay and who actually get good are the people who just love the thing itself.