The rise in women participating in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu & Grappling is reshaping the sport for the better. More women than ever are training, competing, and earning prestigious titles in events like the ADCC and IBJJF championships. With this growth, however, comes a need for discussions about etiquette and respect on the mats—especially when it comes to male practitioners training with women.

In a recent appearance on Andre Galvao’s podcast, ADCC champion Adele Fornarino shared valuable insights on what men should avoid when rolling with female training partners. Her advice sheds light on common issues and offers practical guidance for fostering mutual respect in training.

1. Don’t Constantly Interrupt Rolls with Explanations

One of the most frequent mistakes is stopping a roll to explain techniques, especially when a female partner is succeeding. Fornarino highlighted the importance of allowing the roll to flow naturally.

“Don’t stop the roll every three seconds to explain something… just roll,” she said, stressing that interrupting can undermine confidence and derail the momentum of training. Feedback and technical advice, she added, should be saved for after the session when both partners can discuss techniques in a constructive way.

2. Be Mindful of Strength Differences

Fornarino also addressed the importance of managing physical strength during training. She encouraged male practitioners to focus on technique rather than relying on size and power, particularly when training with technically skilled female partners.

“Be aware of the strength discrepancy, try and be technical, don’t just try and be bigger and stronger,” she explained. This approach not only creates a more balanced and enjoyable roll but also allows both partners to improve their technical skills without feeling overwhelmed.

3. Match the Intensity of Your Partner

Another key point Fornarino raised was about intensity levels. Men should avoid making assumptions that their female partners want to roll lightly or less intensely. Instead, they should gauge and adapt to their partner’s chosen pace.

 

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“Don’t assume they want a lighter roll. Match their intensity,” she said. This ensures mutual respect and a better training experience for both.

Respect Beyond the Roll

Fornarino also emphasized acknowledging successful techniques without disrupting the roll’s flow. Compliments and feedback should come after the round, keeping the focus on the training session while maintaining momentum.

Building a Better Training Environment

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu is celebrated for its inclusivity and the idea that anyone, regardless of size, gender, or background, can thrive. As more women step onto the mats and excel in competitions, it’s essential for male practitioners to ensure that training environments remain welcoming and respectful.

By avoiding interruptions, respecting strength dynamics, and matching intensity, male practitioners can contribute to a more supportive and equal environment for everyone. After all, the goal of BJJ is mutual growth and learning—and that begins with mutual respect.